8:30 – 9:00
Registration
9:00 – 10:25 Introduce ourselves
Apples &
Oranges
First
marriages are “apples” – subsequent marriages are “oranges.” In this
presentation basic fundamental differences between the two are explored. The
stepfamily forms backwards from the biological family. Without recognizing
& preparing for these differences, the stepfamily – and those working with
them – can get set up for major problems.
Bio-Force Meet the
Weakest Link
The most
unpredictable element in stepfamily formation is relationship development. This
presentation explores & literally draws out, how individuals bond &
relationships develop in the stepfamily. This is also contrasted with the
biological family.
10:25 – 10:35 Break
10:35 – 12:00
Step-Discipline
The parenting
problems presented here are universal to stepfamilies where one or both bring
children. Learning the important principles of stepparenting & discipline
will enhance the chance for remarriage success & couple satisfaction.
Money & Stuff
Every
marriage has to handle money & stuff. With a remarriage this is amplified
and is the #2 reason for the break up of second or subsequent marriages,
underlying all other stepfamily problems. This is one of the least discussed
areas before any marriage takes place. This time we come with assets, debts,
children, lack of trust (we got burned), as well as different styles of
spending and saving. Different models of financial management, along with the Taylor's personal experiences are presented.
12:00 – 12:45 Lunch
12:45 – 1:30 What
About Us
One of the
major questions stepcouples ask is, “What about us?” Not only the stepfamily
but the couple relationship also forms backwards. The issues facing the
developing remarried couple relationship can be confusing & emotionally
charged. Among the concepts presented are “primary and foundational,”
“reclaiming the territory” & the “tasks of remarriage.”
1:30 – 2:15 Stages
Pt 1
The Taylor's will be showing two presentations from their VHS/DVD Series, “Designing Dynamic Stepfamilies: Bringing the Pieces
to Peace.” Many remarried couples are surprised to find the
stepfamily jungle a confusing & sometimes dangerous place to hang out. How
to survive (by identifying the emotional landmines) & win (by dealing with
them productively) is presented. This is filled with the life experiences of
stepcouples & stepkids as they relate their travels through "World
Peace," "Diplomatic Breakdown," and "Battle
Engagement" of the development cycle.
2:15 – 2:25 Break
2:25 – 3:15 Stages
Pt 2
The drama
continues as the principles are outlined and illustrated by stepcouples &
stepkids sharing their continuing journey through “Infrastructure
Rebuilding" and landing in the "Post War Era." This ends the
workshop on a pinnacle of hope. For more information regarding the Series: www.DesigningDynamicStepfamilies.com
3:15 – 4:00 Evaluations